Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Lasting Friendships

Some friendships do not last,
but some friends are more loyal than brothers.
Proverbs 18:24

Do you have friends more loyal than brothers? Dick and I lunched today with Joe and Michelle, a couple with whom we share a relationship that fits the description in Proverbs 18:24.

For seven years we lived in the same town as Joe and Michelle. We worked and worshipped together at church, talked over ideas and concerns, shared family time and meals. Though Dick and I are more than 15 years older than Joe and Michelle, our values, attitudes, and commitment to Christ dovetailed, spiritually nurturing each of us and drawing us closer than siblings.

So when Dick and I found out we were moving, I wondered how our friendship would fare with the distance. Dick pastors in a denomination where, instead of local churches hiring their own pastors, bishops appoint pastors to serve in local churches and other ministry settings. In this “Itinerant System”, pastors move from one appointment to another,

Moves are frequent; during the past 35 years in ministry we have moved nine times. This move would take us about 75 minutes from our close friends.

I need not have worried about our relationship with Joe and Michelle. We have stayed close despite the distance. Though we miss the frequent contact we enjoyed before, through email, texting, phone calls, and visits we continue to support and even challenge one another to be faithful in our day to day walk with Christ.

Once again God has proven the absolute truth of His Word.

The Spirit-inspired song, "Friends" by Michael W. Smith expresses my sentiments so well. If you are missing a special friend today, listen and allow God to minister to your heart.

©2011 Pamela D. Williams


  1. I have special friends also that have stayed true: across the miles and the long months without seeing each other. What a blessing they are.

  2. Shanda, you are so right--Christian friends really are a blessing.

  3. This post made me very sad. It reminded me of what I try to keep tucked deeply away -that one day you and Dick will have to move away.

    Just the thought brings tears to my eyes.

  4. I loved this post! Real friends are a blessing from the Lord! If they continue to befriend you during moves, tough times and such, you know He has given you precious jewels. If friends cannot tough-out the rough times and changes, they probably aren't the people the lord chose for you. Many blessings to you and yours!

  5. Some friendships do last and others don't. What is sad is when the one you thought would last, didn't. I have one that did not stand the test of distance.

    I'm so glad you have your special friendship.

  6. Brianna: This post was supposed to offer hope and encouragement--so sorry that it sadden you instead. When the time comes, God will see to it that we keep in touch. Like you, I hope that day is a long way off.

    Cynthia: Cynthia, I like your comparison of lasting friends really to precious jewels. They really are a treasure.

    Dawn: God has blessed us with many faithful friendships over the years. I am truly thankful.

  7. People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. (I don't know who said this but it seems to be true.) I have a friend who has been there for me for more than twenty years, Others I've lost contact with and of course some with whom I came in contact for a short while and never seen again. Jesus has been my friend for more than fifty years now. That is what I call a friendship.
    God bless, Geoff.